Ways to Heal Your Relationship
Fighting with your significant other is a natural component of all healthy relationships. Regardless of who’s to blame for the misunderstanding, it’s how you smooth things over afterwards that can make or break your relationship. When you hit a rough patch, these tips can help you heal your relationship and get back on track.
1. Apologize with Food
Your mother was right: the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. How can he stay mad at you if you make his favorite meal and slip in an apology before dessert? Men love a home cooked meal, and he’ll feel appreciated by your efforts to fill his stomach. Not the best cook? A well-chosen dessert from his favorite restaurant is an easy substitute.
2. Work on your Massage Skills
When your man comes home from work, dim the lights and give him a long massage. Take the time to direct your focus to him. He’ll relax and soak up the extra attention. Try not to talk about the fight until afterwards.
3. Give Him Space
Some men like to be left alone for a while after a relationship blunder. Give him his space and wait until he’s ready to talk. Let him know that you’ll wait as long as it takes for him to be ready to talk.
4. Buy Electronics
Boys know we swoon over beautiful flowers, and we know they feel the same about electronics. Find out which video game or DVD he wants and leave it on his doorstep with a heartfelt note. Not sure what he likes? Ask his friends if you need help.
5. Write a Song
Writing a song or poem for your guy is a romantic way to smooth things over after a fight. Even if you’re not a great singer, he’ll be touched by your thoughtfulness and creativity.
6. Remind Him of the Good Times
It’s easy to forget the good aspects of a relationship during a fight. Help him remember the memories you share by flipping through photos. If he’s not ready to talk, email him a sweet photo of the two of you in happier times.
7. Be Honest
If you’re the guilty culprit in your relationship predicament, it’s best to own up to your mistakes. Once he knows you can be trusted to tell the truth—even when it’s difficult—he’ll feel closer to you.
8. Make Compromises
Instead of incessantly apologizing, ask him what you can do to make things right. He can tell you exactly what he needs and you’ll be able to show off your compromising skills.
9. Look Amazing
We all know that men are visual. Before you meet with him to talk about your relationship, make sure you look your best. Wear his favorite hairstyle or outfit as a subtle reminder that his opinion matters to you.
10. Say “I’m Sorry”
These simple words have saved millions of relationships. When your relationship is in serious trouble, reveal your devotion to your man by sincerely expressing how sorry you are. It’ll be hard for him to walk away from such a touching and direct apology.
J. Sample is a writer and blogger who also dabbles in copyright litigation. She has been in a relationship for a happy thirteen years.
